Knotty Rope Jam
Multiple dates and times
The Kink Store SF, 94103
Description
Knotty Rope Jam @ The Kink Store
7 pm - 11 pm
224 6th St, San Francisco, CA 94103
Knotty Scouts!
Tomorrow’s Rope Jam: Thursday, January 9th
Get ready to play in our artsy, quirky kink dungeon—complete with trusses, hardpoints, bamboo, and plenty of toys you can test, try, or even buy. We’ll have:
- Workshops & Demos at 8 pm
- Knotty Scout Leader Donny teaching the Butterfly TK and offering tie help all night
- Live Music from Community DJs
- Photography by community member Jeremie Fremaux—so show up photo-ready!
- Delicious hummus & pita chips from Obour Foods (in the Ferry Building)
- Other light snacks and refreshments
- A dedicated play space, tea lounge, onsite shower, and our infamous “whorey hole”
All levels—and singles—are welcome! Come people-watch, sip tea, socialize, explore, and play, all while practicing consent and boundary skills.
Grab your tickets: Get Tickets
We have a new couples rope workshop series coming out!! Fill out this form to get info HERE.
Venue Rentals & The “Whorey Hole” Upgrade Plans
The Kink Store venue is available for workshops and private events—message me for details!
We’re also upgrading our “Whorey Hole/Glory Hole” to include VR POV porn, so you can choose your own adventure inside. We need actors of all genders, plus tech, style, and comfort insights. Got ideas or special skills? Message me to get involved!
Consent Talk Overview
Welcome! This event will include a mandatory consent talk, where we will cover the FIRES principles and other vital consent topics. FIRES stands for Freely given, Informed, Reversible/Revocable, Engaged, and Specific. Just like fire, consent can be powerful, beautiful, and essential- but we must learn how to handle it carefully to minimize harm to ourselves and others. By practicing these consent skills, you will get better at understanding and respecting boundaries. We will also discuss how to address and resolve issues “putting out fires” when they arise. Miscommunication and mistakes happen, and we can all learn from them if we approach these moments with honesty and openness. The tools you learn here are not just for this event; they are useful everywhere.
Engagement & Approaches
- You are encouraged to approach or engage with anyone in this space.
- If someone approaches you and you are not interested, simply say:
“No thank you- thanks for asking!”
No additional explanation is needed, required, or expected. - If you accept a conversation or a hug, it does not mean you are obligated to do anything else. Only do what you want to do, and feel empowered to say no to anything else.
- If you feel like someone is not taking a “hint,” be aware that you may not be communicating effectively. We’re not here to solve riddles- just be direct about your boundaries or desires. Nobody is a mind reader, and everyone has different levels of social awareness, so end the guessing game by saying what you need or want clearly. This simple practice will help you not only in these spaces but in every aspect of your life.
- Practice saying and hearing “no,” so it becomes natural for everyone.
- If you see something that seems problematic, please speak up. We all have blind spots, and constructive feedback helps us learn and grow.
- If someone isn’t following the guidelines, inform them politely about how we interact in these spaces. They will likely be grateful for the guidance, and it helps our community stay safer.
Scenes & Etiquette
- Please do not interrupt scenes in progress. This includes any rope play, BDSM activities, or people clearly connecting in an intimate way. Wait until they are finished before asking questions or saying hello.
FIRES Consent Principles
- Freely Given
Consent is only valid when given without pressure, manipulation, or repeated asking, even from a partner, friends, co-workers, or event organizers - Informed
- One must fully understand what they are being asked to participate in.
- If someone has an STI, they must disclose it before any contact that might expose a partner to risk.
- Stay sober enough to give and perceive consent. If you are under the influence of substances, do not engage in rope or BDSM play, and inform any potential partners that you have been drinking or using substances. This allows them to make an informed decision about whether they want to participate.
- Do not ask new play partners to play without condoms in this space.
- Reversible / Revocable
- Anyone can change their mind about what they feel like doing at any time.
- Even if you’ve done something before or are in the middle of an activity, you can still say, “No,” “No more,” or “Never mind.”
- Engaged
- If there is any doubt about whether someone is fully interested, treat that as a no.
- Consent must come from a place of genuine enthusiasm. Pay attention to eye contact, body language, and tone.
- If you receive a “no,” thank them for taking care of themselves and do not ask them again. Let them know they can come to you if they change their mind.
- Specific
- Yes to one thing is not a yes to everything.
- Ask for consent before any escalation.
- At this event, always ask for consent prior to any touch.
Additional Reminders
- Stay sober enough to give and perceive consent.
- COVID Safety: Please do not attend if you are feeling ill. Masks are welcome but optional. We cannot guarantee a COVID-free event. If you cannot attend for any reason, we can offer a rain check for a future event.
Thank you for upholding these guidelines. We’re all here to learn, explore, and create a positive, respectful environment. Enjoy the event, and remember: practice makes us better at consent, communication, and care.
Tickets are transferable but not refundable.
Low-income tickets are available upon request, and we have volunteer spots available in exchange for free or discounted tickets. Limited volunteer spots are available so please contact event organizers early!
bayareaknottyscouts@gmail.com
FB: Krissy Mahan
(865) 407-6736
No pictures using phones without enthusiastic consent from anyone in the photo!
Professional photographer Natalie Schaefer will be onsite taking artsy photos. Wrist bands are available to opt out of photos. Consent will be obtained prior to posting link to pics in private fb group. Photos will be sent out to ticketholders via email where selected photos can be removed from the album upon request.
For further information, please don't hesitate to reach out to our dedicated organizers, Krissy Mahan or Celina Diaz Borquez. They are more than happy to answer any questions you may have. In addition to our monthly rope jams, our Knotty Scout Leaders are available to conduct workshops beyond our regular events, ensuring you have ample opportunities to expand your knowledge and skills.
All photos used were shot by the photographer who is available for private or event bookings. Photos are all from participants at previous rope jams.
Location
The Kink Store SF, 94103