How to Stop People Pleasing Without Becoming an A’hole

Three live online evenings about people pleasing, honest responses, desire, disappointment,
and discovering that connection doesn’t have to cost you yourself.

Maybe you’re really good at sensing what other people need. You’re considerate, attentive, generous. “I don’t mind,” “whatever works for you,” and “it’s really okay” roll beautifully off your tongue.

Sometimes it really is okay.

And sometimes… you have no idea what you want anymore.

There is just one small logistical problem with always taking everybody else into account:

You are also in the room.

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Three evenings, three steps

1 — Owning the Pleaser
Meet the ways you become easy, useful or agreeable to prevent conflict, rejection or disappointment. With curiosity, humor and role play, we’ll explore the pleaser rather than trying to get rid of them — and what this strategy might be protecting.

2 — Risking an Honest Response
People pleasing isn't only struggling to say no. It's saying yes too quickly, not knowing what you want, not asking, and forgetting that you can negotiate. We’ll practice slowing down and finding a response that is actually yours.

3 — The Pleaser’s Pleasure
Sensitivity, attunement and generosity aren't the enemy. We’ll explore how to stay connected to another person and to what you genuinely want. What becomes possible when giving comes from desire rather than obligation?

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Accessible, playful — and sometimes confronting

No experience with embodiment, consent or intimacy work is needed. Expect teaching, embodied exploration, breakout practices, role play, reflection and probably some laughing at ourselves.

You never have to share anything you don't want to. At the same time, looking at how we abandon ourselves to secure connection can touch something deep. We'll make room for both.

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Practical

Thursdays: October 29 · November 5 · November 12
18:30–21:15 CET (Stockholm/Brussels time)
Live online via Zoom

My teaching and guided material will be recorded without participants’ personal sharing and processes, so you can revisit the material or catch up if you miss an evening. Joining live is warmly recommended.

Low income — €85 (6 places)
Standard — €120
High income — €155

Everyone receives the same experience. Choose the price that honestly fits your financial situation. Choosing the high-income price helps me keep lower-priced places available.

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