Quintimacy Brighton 2025 - Level 1 - 3 days of queer intimacy, erotic embodiment and consent culture.

Quintimacy Brighton is back!

You are invited to join us for Level 1 - three immersive days exploring different forms of queer intimacy and erotic embodiment in a consent-based and trauma-informed space.

What is Quintimacy?

Quintimacy® is a unique opportunity to explore intimacy, consent and erotic desire from an unapologetically queer and trans centred point of view. Quintimacy is an exclusively Queer space, held by experienced and qualified professional practitioners in Sexological Bodywork, Somatic Coaching and Counselling, movement, trans/queer specific Sex Education and pleasure activism. Consent and respect are at the core of the work.

Everyone is encouraged and supported to take care of their own needs and boundaries. You don't have to touch or be touched at all to be fully welcome and a part of the workshop. Whether you're an established part of the Quintimacy community, a workshop regular or brand new, you are warmly invited to share this 3 day long weekend with us.

Offerings will include embodied consent exercises, touch, deep and authentic connection, deep listening and empathy, and cuddles/holds, as well as intimate and erotic embodiment and sensual touch and massage. There is a focus on gender-freeing and gender-affirming approaches to the body, including our most intimate parts.

In an intimate group of around 20 participants, we will spend 3 days together...

Day 1 is all about building a sense of safety and establishing shared values and skills around communication, enthusiastic consent and learning to hold one another gently in vulnerability. We will start to explore touch and pleasure in structured practices based upon the Wheel of Consent.

Day 2 offers the opportunity to deepen this work to include intimate or erotic touch, practices such as the Genital Interview and watching intimate and erotic bodywork demos. In the afternoon, you will be invited to negotiate and design your own ‘bespoke experience’ of touch and intimacy with one or more participants, or solo.

Day 3 offers opportunities for longer, immersive episodes of exploration and receiving an experience you have negotiated, based on your desire and what is present for you. It is also a chance to share deeply with the group of queer erotic peers we have cultivated this space with.

Everything will be an invitation and there will always be a spectrum of possibilities for engaging with the programme, and spaces to have sanctuary such as a dens, sensory tent, and places to rest, journal, do colouring and witness the room.

Day 1

On Day One we'll work carefully and with intention, supporting one another to feel into our bodies' sense of yes and no, and to communicate our boundaries and desires. The focus of this gentle trauma-informed day will be on soothing, safety and nurturing.

Day 1 includes time to experience:

• sharing stories

• deep listening and being heard

• conscious non-sexual touch

• embodied consent

• massage

• cuddles

This first day is a complete experience, where clothing is optional but 'pants stay on' at all times, and is suitable for those new to this work.

Day 2

Day 2 offers the chance to build on these strong foundations of safety. Deepening our journey into Queer Intimacy, allowing our relationships within the group to become closer, clothing will again be optional but 'pants off’ is now an option. On Day 2 we open up the possibility to witness and share erotic touch and pleasure. We support you to find partners to work with.

Day 2 includes time to experience:

• sensual or erotic touch

• full body massage

• intimate mapping

• gender free body appreciation

• gender affirming genital exploration

• self touch

• shared touch

Day 3

Day 3 offers opportunities to benefit from this brave space and intimate container we have created together.

Day 3 includes time for;

• doing something again or for longer

• more time with the same or a different partner.

• watching new bodywork demos

• long, luxurious, immersive episodes of receiving an intimate and/or erotic experience with a partner/s.

• possibly playing as more than 2 or a group intimacy experience.

• more time immersed in a brave, queer and sex positive space with your friends and peers.

Please note;

If you're drawn to attend Day 3, you MUST have attended Day 1 and 2. This is to create a sense of safety in the group, and the shared understanding and experience of consent and communication. If you're not sure, you can book on Day 1 and 2 (limited tickets), and decide at the end of Day 2 whether you want to stay with us for Day 3.

Level 1

Quintimacy level 1 events are suitable for queer and trans adults (18+)* of any experience level. Beginners to these kinds of events are welcome. We are exploring and practicing solid consent and communication skills based on the Betty Martin Wheel of Consent, and participants are encouraged to work at a range of levels within a wide spectrum of possibilities.

Whilst level 1 is not a kink focussed event, the programme and facilitators are kink positive and inclusive. 

Level 2

Doing this level 1 event means you become eligible to book a level 2 weekend (which invites further practice of intimacy and playing with power, exploring stronger sensation and the erotic self/ves and mind.)

The next Level 2 event is also in Brighton on 3-5 October 2025 - see https://buytickets.at/quintimacy/1423464

*If you are 18-21 years old, we would appreciate chatting with you before the event to give you information, discuss the content, talk through any questions you may have, and ensure you are going to have the most positive experience possible. Thanks!

Safety and Safeguarding

Beck and Alexander work to the code of conduct for Certified Sexological Bodyworkers (CSBs) and the Quintimacy weekend is held on the basis of these ways of working, which are deeply consent-based and trauma-informed.

We ask all attendees to use barriers (nitrile gloves) for body fluids, following the same hygiene protocol that CSBs use in our work. This applies even if you are attending and working with a fluid bonded partner, and this is keep the space clean.

We take a number of steps to ensure that people attending the event are able and willing to create a consent culture together and this might mean turning people away on occasion if we don't feel there is a good fit at this time. The team are all operating under agreement about ethical boundaries between us and attendees. There are anonymous ways to report any consent violations or accidents that you believe occur at a Quintimacy event. If you have any concerns, please approach Beck or Alexander to discuss at the nearest opportunity.

There are Group Agreements that detail how we behave at Quintimacy events to create the most conducive environment for doing this important work. These are sent out to participants in the weeks before the event.

Attending solo or as a pair

You can attend Quintimacy alone, and not know anyone (yet), or with a friend or a partner. You can choose to work with your partner exclusively, or not. Each person attending will need to purchase a ticket.

Venue

We are returning to the Brighthelm Centre again!

North Road, Brighton,

East Sussex, BN1 1YD

The venue is easily accessible on public transport and there are carparks nearby. There is a car park on-site for disabled drivers and possibly others (TBC). There are gender neutral toilets exclusively for our use on the floor we are based on, and the venue and toilets are wheelchair accessible. Please contact us to discuss any accessibility requirements.

The venue - https://www.brighthelm.org.uk/

Cost

Tickets are offered on a sliding scale, depending on your income and financial situation. Most people should pay the STANDARD ticket, so please look at this first and consider if you can afford to pay this. If you are on a low income/marginalised in various ways and unable to afford the Standard ticket, you are welcome to purchase a SUBSIDISED ticket (limited tickets available). The only way we can afford to offer subsidised tickets is if people support by paying extra when they can, and this is where generous supporters come in! If you can afford to buy a SUPPORTERS ticket, we would be very grateful. Also, on any ticket tier you have the option of adding an extra amount to support. Thank you for paying what you can to help make Quintimacy sustainable.

2 or 3 day tickets

There are limited tickets for the Friday and Saturday only, but you can 'upgrade' to attend on the Sunday if you decide this is what you want to do. The cost of this will be a standard £50 for all tiers of sliding scale, and can be paid into Beck's bank account by BACS/bank transfer before you arrive on the Sunday morning.

Sponsored places

If you really are unable to afford the lowest price, subsidised ticket and feel called to be at this event, we are offering a maximum of 2 SPONSORED places where we negotiate how much you can afford to pay for 2 days. Priority will be given to QTBIPOC/disabled people/people with multiple intersecting marginalised identities. If you want to express an interest in one of these places, please email Beck on info@quintimacy.com. Discretion assured.

Cancellations

Cancellations 28 days before event - a full refund (minus all booking fees) will be offered.

Cancellations 14 days or more before event - 50% refund (minus all booking fees). In exceptional circumstances and where we can find someone to take your place at this event, we may be able to transfer your payment to a future event.

Cancellations less than 14 days before event - I regret no refunds can be given.

Unfortunately, no refunds can be offered once the event has started, whether you decide to leave for any reason, or in the unlikely case we ask someone to leave because of safety/behaviour etc.

Refunds are done via BACS (bank transfer) and we would require your bank details to complete this.

Instalments

Once you have chosen your sliding scale ticket price, it is possible to pay in instalments to make it easier to manage the costs of the event. The full balance must be paid 14 days before the start of the event (2nd May). The cancellation policy applies to all payments made by instalments, except the first instalment of £50 which is non refundable (in acknowledgement of admin work and costs).

If you wish to pay by instalments, please contact us as soon as possible on info@quintimacy.com and tell us whether you are paying standard, subsidised or supporter ticket fee. Please also tell us when you will make your payments and of how much (ensuring full payment has been received 14 days before the event starts). We will create an access code to book a 'free' ticket so you are registered in our system.

COVID

Quintimacy now has a policy that aims to reduce the possibility of Covid being spread through the community we love and care about. We are asking people to test (LFT) before attending the event, and showing your test on arrival, and to not attend with cold and flu/sickness and diarrhoea symptoms.

You can read the full Covid policy here - Quintimacy COVID policy - for in person events - final Nov 2024

Food

Hot drinks and snacks will be provided, including vegan snacks and fruit. We are inviting you to ‘bring and share’ vegan or vegetarian food for lunch on each day (there are kitchen facilities at the venue - further details will be provided). If you prefer you can bring your own lunch or go out to get some. There is a cafe on the ground floor.

On a previous Quintimacy, in the evenings, people arranged to go out to eat in local restaurants together, or maybe you will prefer a quiet meal at your accommodation.

Accommodation

We are unable to arrange accommodation locally but will set up a Facebook group for participants to arrange sharing accommodation, travel, and maybe a meal on Saturday night.

There will be a private Facebook page for the event where you can make arrangements with others. (As with everything we offer, engaging with this is optional.)

Facilitators

Beck Thom (of Quintimacy/Somatic Sex Educator) and Alexander Hahne will be holding the space for us on these two days.

Beck Thom (they/them) is a Somatic Sex Educator and Certified Sexological Bodyworker. They are experienced in delivering online and in-person workshops for queer and trans people around embodiment, sex and pleasure. They work in a trauma-informed, consent-based way and aim to create spaces where together we develop enough safety and trust for intimate and transformative work to happen. Beck is a registered member of Association of Certified Sexological Bodyworkers and is fully insured.

www.quintimacy.com

Alexander Hahne (he/ him) is a gay trans man, trainer and speaker for trans-specific topics in the field of sexual health, sex educator (gsp), somatic counselor, sexological bodyworker (ISB), dancer and pleasure activist. Leader of workshops and individual counselling on the topics of body awareness, intimacy and sexuality. With his work he makes a practical contribution to more visibility and inclusion of trans and non-binary people, and directly supports them in their own experience of the body as well as the possibility of uncovering and using access to their own pleasurable potential. http://www.alexanderhahne.com and https://www.instagram.com/alexander_hahne/