Quintimacy Kink Online 'Extra' - Edge Play and Taboo Kinks

Quintimacy Kink Online

The Kink Online Zoom call (facilitated by Beck Thom) now happens every quarter on a Tuesday and is attended by  queer and trans folk who want a space to talk about kink in our very particular Quintimacy-esque kind of way! (That means intimately, trauma and neurodiversity-informed, connected and with care, and with a queer, intersectional feminist lens).

At Kink Online, there are no topics surrounding fantasy, kink and play between consenting adults that are out of bounds to be mentioned. Together, regular members of this call have moved forward with care for other people, and with awareness of other people’s sensitivities and potential activations around trauma, or simply the visceral and embodied responses that sometimes happen (the yuk!) when other people discuss their desires and kinks (their yum!)

An ‘Extra’ call

You are invited to an extra separate call about edgeplay and taboo kinks.

This is in acknowledgement that some people have a curiosity or an established relationship with fantasies, roles and kink activities that are sometimes challenging and controversial to others (and even to ourselves), we decided it would be a good idea to hold a focussed call. That way people with an interest in discussing the harder edge of kink, and knowing they are in a place of resilience to feel OK about it, can ‘opt in’. Whilst we will still be considerate and caring towards each other (and self-caring), we will also know that this is a space where we agree we can talk freely about these things.

What happens on call?

The call will be structured in the same way as a monthly Kink Online call.

1. Introduction and confidentiality agreement.

2. A quick round of introductions including hearing what topic you might want to talk about in a timed slot.

3. Timed slots of about 10-15 minutes per topic, including sharing and focussed group discussion and peer support.

4. Wrapping up and self care/after care reminder - end.

What is Edgeplay?

What people define as Edgeplay is very subjective and what is ‘edgy’ to one person is pretty comfortable and middle of the road or mainstream kink to the next person.

However, usually Edgeplay is defined as play where people are choosing to play on the edge of usual accepted consent practices and conventions such as SSC (Safe, Sane, Consensual). It means to push the limits and edges of one or more of the people (physical, emotional, psychological and in terms of power exchange). It also sometimes includes practices which carry a higher risk of serious physical harm or death.

Taboo play?

This may include ageplay, adult baby/diaper play, raceplay and scat play.

People who engage in this play use RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink) to navigate the desires they wish to explore, and to inform their decisions (and the education and information they need to manage the risks).

For this call, we are going to open up a space where there is permission to talk about subjects such as (examples);

· Consensual Non Consent (CNC) and Total Power Exchange (TPE).

· breath play (erotic asphyxiation)

· blood play and cutting/needles/piercing

. intoxication play

· fire play

· knife play or gun games

· extreme emotional play

· incest roleplay

· age play

· scat play

· race play

Confidentiality

Like all Quintimacy online spaces, we ask that you respect the privacy and confidentiality of the attendees and the stories and sharing, and do not share outside of the call who was here, and what they shared.

Screens

We ask that screens are on.

Recording

This call will NOT be recorded.

Who can attend?

• Existing Quintimacy attendees known to Beck.

• Other interested queer and trans folk (18+) who send Beck an email (before or after buying a ticket) telling me your name, pronouns, identity and why you want to attend this call about edgeplay/taboo kink, and what you will contribute to it. Thankyou!

Refunds/cancellations

Free cancellation over 3 days before the event. Otherwise, no refunds are available, sorry. No refunds will be given for any reason once the call has started.

Payment

This ‘Extra’ call is extra time (2 hours), extra preparation and extra challenging to hold.

There is a sliding scale starting at the usual cost of a 90 minute Kink Online call. Please pay what you can afford and consider adding a supporters payment if you can, to keep Quintimacy sustainable.

Boundaries

• This is a clothes on Zoom call.

• No sexual activity on the call.

• Listen to others and respect their views and experiences.

• Hold both the right to have a kink/a turn on AND the responsibility to be ethical and responsible with it.

• Take responsibility for yourself and your self-care needs.

• Come with a ‘risk aware’ attitude that you might hear about things you disagree with or feel uncomfortable about, and that can be acknowledged and sat with.

• Our kinks and discussions about kinks do not happen in a social or political vacuum and we take into account that power, culturally embedded advantages and structural inequalities inevitably inform our erotic minds and kinks in different ways.

• If you are behaving in a way that is disrespecting boundaries of the call or disrupting the experience for others, Beck reserves the right to remove you from the call (no refund would be given in this case).

Content note

The purpose of this call is to create a space for sharing about more challenging kinks, fantasies and fetishes with an attitude of openness and curiosity. As at all Quintimacy events, we will be mindful and caring about our impact on others (this time within the aim to speak openly about our desires and edgeplay fantasies and activities). You are welcome to take care of yourself by switching off and sitting out, or to leave the call if you need to. Please be aware in advance of your own needs/wellbeing and how these conversations are likely to affect you, in order to make an informed decision about booking and joining us.

Important disclaimer

This Zoom call is a discussion space for peer sharing and education only and we will be discussing kink activities between consenting adults only. Beck does not assume the position of expert in kink/BDSM. In addition to any information or advice shared by Beck or other attendees, attendees should take responsibility for doing their own research before engaging in play. No responsibility can be taken by Quintimacy or Beck for any unwanted or harmful effects of activities engaged in. We may also discuss practices which are illegal in the UK or other countries attendees are located in, so please be aware of this and potential legal and other life-changing implications.