Life Beyond Monogamy: Dismantle the 'shoulds'. Awaken your wants. Love on your terms.

“Has your marriage always been easy?”

That’s the question my eccentric new friend asked me, standing in my kitchen like she was offering me a secret key.

“And have you ever had feelings for someone else?”

I froze.

Because of course I had. And I had buried it out of shame. Told myself that this was the life I was supposed to want—husband, kids, routine. The safe, monogamous dream.

But that conversation cracked something open in me.

She went on to tell me they were opening their marriage, after almost 10 years together. They were navigating the uncertain, beautiful terrain of polyamory.

I was equal parts shocked… and wildly intrigued.

That night I went down the rabbit hole. Reading everything I could find on non-monogamy. Listening to podcasts, stalking Reddit threads, searching for stories that reflected the questions bubbling inside me.

And what I found wasn’t just about sex, or relationships.
It was about truth.
It was about desire.
It was about freedom from the weight of a life I hadn’t dared to question.

From That Moment On… I Couldn’t Unsee What I’d Seen.

I was 27. Ten years into a monogamous relationship that had started when I was 17.

We had two kids, a dog, a house, and the kind of predictable life that makes people nod approvingly at dinner parties and think they have it all made.

And yet—I felt a hunger for something more. Not instead of my life, but through it.

Not an escape. An expansion. 

I didn't want a divorce. But now I could see that I didn't have to in order to add eros and adventure to my life,

And that’s exactly what the next eight years became.

I’ve made mistakes. Had heartbreaks. Felt jealousy I thought would destroy me. Experienced freedom I didn’t know I was allowed to have.

I’ve read every book, had every awkward conversation, and rewritten the rules of love over and over again.

But most importantly: I became more me.

Wiser. Sexier. More grateful. More alive. More in my body. More in love—with myself, with my partners, with life.

I found my calling as a relationship coach and I’ve coached close to 100 people through this same terrain. Navigating the messy transition into a life filled with unthinkable freedom.

People who are questioning the rules. People deep in monogamy who feel stuck. People opening up their relationships for the first time. People navigating chaos, beauty, and everything in between.

Now it's time to bring this wisdom to the public, to you who is curious and questioning and in search for a way through. 

Introducing: BEYOND MONOGAMY

A transformational live weekend course for anyone ready to question what they’ve been told about love, commitment, and what’s possible in relationships.

Live on Zoom | August 2025 | Recordings available

This isn’t a course telling you to open your relationship.

It’s a course that gives you the tools, insight, and courage to listen to yourself.

Because maybe you want to explore non-monogamy.

Maybe you just want to stop resenting your partner.

Maybe you want to understand your jealousy, your fantasies, your emotional truth.

This course is your permission slip to get radically honest about what you want.

This isn’t about the structure. It’s about the sovereignty.

Whether you choose monogamy, polyamory, or something in between…

this course will give you the clarity, confidence, and courage to own your desires fully.

Without shame. Without blame. Without abandoning yourself.

When & Where:

• August 23rd and 24th | Live on Zoom
• Four sessions over two days | Each session is 2hrs | All calls are recorded
• Saturday and Sunday 10:00-12:00 and 13:00-15:00 (GMT00)
• Includes workbook, journal prompts, and bonus integration practices

Are you ready to stop pretending and start choosing?

Because this is more than a course.

It’s a turning point.

✨ This is not a just course about “how to do polyamory.”

This is a journey back to your truth.

Whether you’re…
→ Feeling unsatisfied in monogamy but not sure why.
→ Craving multiple connections—but terrified of jealousy, judgment, or chaos.
→ Curious, open, and unsure what you want.

These four session are your permission slip to explore what’s real for you.

No pressure to label yourself. No dogma. Just deep, radical self-inquiry through the lens of conscious relationships and self-liberation.

This is for you if:
• You’re questioning monogamy, but don’t know where to begin.
• You’re single and curious about exploring multiple lovers (with integrity).
• You’re in a relationship and wondering how the hell to open it consciously.
• You’ve tried non-monogamy, but got lost in insecurity, anxiety or chaos.
• You’re not even sure what you want, but you’re done outsourcing your desire to society’s expectations.
• You’ve ever asked yourself: Is this all there is?
• You’re curious about non-monogamy but feel overwhelmed by where to start.
• You’re in a monogamous relationship and want more connection, freedom, or fire.
• You’re navigating jealousy, guilt, fear, or shame in your relationship(s).
• You’re ready to claim radical self-responsibility and reimagine your love life on your terms.

🔥 Over Four Transformational Sessions, You’ll Explore:
🌀 Monogamy, Non-Monogamy & All the Space In Between
The real definitions, myths, and relationship scripts you’ve inherited—and how to unhook from the ones that no longer serve your soul. 

❤️ Desire, Truth & the Courage to Want More
What do you actually want?
We’ll uncover the layers—your needs, fears, core wounds and longings—so you can meet yourself with clarity, not shame.

💥 Opening Up (or Starting Fresh)
Whether you’re partnered or solo, curious or committed—this course offers a grounded path to navigate relationships beyond the binary with integrity and self-trust.

🫀 The Messy Middle: Jealousy, Triggers & Transformation
We don’t bypass the hard stuff—we transmute it.
You’ll discover how to stay anchored when emotions rise, and how conscious relationships can become your greatest teacher.

🌍 Living Out Loud
This is bigger than relationships. It’s about a life that reflects your full truth.
We’ll explore what it means to be witnessed in your choices—by your community, your family, even your children—and how to stay sovereign in the process.

🌺 Your Spiritual Backbone
Throughout it all, we anchor in the sacred.
You’ll return again and again to your body, your breath, your intuition—because this journey isn’t just mental or relational.
It’s spiritual.
It’s about coming home to yourself, over and over again, in the fire and the pleasure alike.

✨This is more than a course. It’s the beginning of a freedom and love revolution.
You’ll also get:
✅ An intake form to share your biggest questions and desires, so this course is tailor-made for what YOU most need.
✅ Time and space to ask your questions during the course, nothing is off limits.
✅ A grounded, compassionate introduction to non-monogamy that holds space for your uncertainty and evolution.
✅ Deep insight into the psychological, relational, and erotic layers of conscious non-monogamy.

💫 This is the course I wish I had when I stood at the edge of the known… and dared to want more.

✨ If you’re ready to explore what love can look like—on your own terms—this is for you.

🌹 Meet Your Guide: Thorhildur 

Transformational Coach | Tantra Practitioner | Relationship Alchemist

Thorhildur is a bold truth-teller, a deeply intuitive guide, and a woman who has walked the messy, magnificent path of reimagining love from the inside out.

She’s spent the past 8+ years exploring the full spectrum of conscious monogamy and non-monogamy—within her own long-term marriage, through deep study, and in guiding nearly 200 clients through their own relational awakenings.

Her work is a fusion of tantra, shadow work, emotional intelligence, and radical self-responsibility, delivered with warmth, humor, and a no-BS approach. She specializes in helping people come home to themselves, own their desires unapologetically, and navigate love with truth, clarity, and sovereignty.

Whether you’re questioning everything or just craving something more, Thorhildur is here to hold space for your expansion—with compassion, clarity, and the kind of fierce love that changes lives.

💬 What Clients Are Saying

“Þórhildur gave me powerful tools to look inward and see things from a wider perspective. She opened my eyes to incredible possibilities—without ever pushing an agenda or forcing an opinion. She helped me recognize and express my own desires, and guided me through the process in a way that felt safe and empowering the whole time. The anxiety and fear I used to carry have been replaced by relief, joy, and excitement.”

— Anonymous Client (in transition from monogamy to swinging)