The Wheel of Consent - In English

The Wheel of Consent
March 12 - 14, 2021
LIVE - ONLINE - FOR COUPLE - In English
Facilitator: Lorenzo Stiernquist

The Wheel of Consent is a fantastic tool for you who want to learn how to feel more pleasure, to know what you want, have clearer boundaries, and communicate better. It helps you to say no easier and also ask for what you really want, need, and long for in your relationships.

The online course has almost the same structure as a "regular" course for couples where you do all the exercises with your partner or friend, while all instructions, theory sessions, and sharing will be on Zoom (video conference). You get the opportunity to develop your relationship and do the exercises at home in a safe and relaxed environment. At the same time, you get new inspiration and contact with other people, which can be very nice now that we can not attend courses in the same way as usual due to the coronavirus. Below you can read more about how the course works practically, but first, a little more about the Wheel of Consent.

❁ The Wheel of Consent
Sometimes, when we hug a person, for example, we can experience how we both give and receive at the same time and that it feels wonderful. But in other situations when it does not feel good, we may need to clarify certain things. You may have had the experience of being touched, but at the same time been unsure whether the touch was for you or the other person's sake. Or you may have touched another person without first finding out if you really want it or if the other person wants it. Or been confused about whether you touch in the way you want to touch or if you touch in the way you think the other person wants to be touched or that you touch in the way you wish you want to touch ... Sometimes it can be emotional chaos, and that is when the Wheel of Consent comes in and can help you sort out the mess.

The Wheel of Consent is like a "map" that helps you navigate as you interact with other people. It clarifies who is doing and who it is for. In other words, who is giving a gift and who is receiving a gift. Because then it also becomes clear who needs to communicate their needs and desires and who is responsible for communicating their boundaries. The Wheel of Consent can also function as a common "language" that makes it easier to communicate and ensure that everything is done with consent.

❁ The content
You will have the opportunity to do different exercises (usually with touch) and learn the Wheel of Consent and in that way learn more about:
- consent and boundaries
- how to feel more pleasure
- have fun and at the same time develop and deepen your relationship
- how you can feel more secure in an interaction
- how you can make conscious choices about touch
- the four different ways of touch
- how to give and receive touch wholeheartedly
- the art of taking (with consent)
- be able to ask for what you REALLY want
- how to experience and to increase both direct and indirect pleasure
- the difference between what you WANT and what you are WILLING to
- how you can more easily feel, value, and express your impulses
- the theory around the Wheel of Consent and how it can be a help to get better relationships
- how to avoid getting caught in the shadow sides
- how to get back to consent if you happen to end up in the shadow sides
- why we sometimes do not ask for what we want
- what we do instead of asking for what we want
- how to strengthen the various spiritual aspects of the Wheel of Consent
- discussions and Q&A
- sharing, where you can share your experiences and listen to others experiences and insights

❁ Consent
The Wheel of Consent basis is - as the name suggests - that everything is done with consent. But for consent to work, we need to become aware of our own patterns and understand how different dynamics in relationships work. Know more about power dynamics, the shadow sides, and how we can create trust in each other. We need to learn how to have clear communication and find out what we really want and what makes us feel good. Because otherwise, it is difficult to know what we really give consent to. That is why we will, among other things, explore the four different "roles" in the Wheel of Consent. These four roles provide the opportunity to experience more pleasure, but they also have their challenges and shadow sides that are important to become aware of and know how to handle.

❁ What the course is and is not
The course will include many exercises with the possibility of touch. But the focus is on deepening your understanding of the Wheel of Consent and learn to make true, wholehearted, and conscious choices.

This is a course for you who want to feel more pleasure and enjoy touch more. But to be able to do that, you need to find out what kind of touch you really want to receive and not. And what kind of touch you are willing to give and not. It is simply a matter of gaining an in-depth understanding of yourself. The goal is to be able to enjoy intimate interaction more by feeling relaxed, safe, seen, and heard. Which is something you will be able to benefit from in many different situations for the rest of your life. So even though there will be opportunities for a lot of touches, the focus is on developing yourself and learning about the Wheel of Consent and not on the touch itself. This is not a "massage course".

❁ For whom the course is aimed
The course is for beginners, but also for you who have practiced the Wheel of Consent before. Because what most people experience is that you continuously experience new depths and insights the more you practice.

It doesn’t matter what relationship you have with the person you are doing the exercises with. You may have been a couple for a long time, just started dating, being relatives, being old friends, or just met. The important thing is that both of you want to explore how you can be more honest and true to yourself and others about your limits and to find out how you really want to be touched and not.

You are welcome regardless of sexual orientation, ethnicity, age (but at least 18 years old), religion, or if you identify yourself as a man, woman, a mixture of both, or something else.

Although the Wheel of Consent can significantly improve and develop your sex life, this is not a sex course, and everyone should at least have underwear on during the whole course.

❁ To feel safe
Everything is voluntary! There is nothing that you have to do. All exercises are only suggestions, and as long as everything is done with your partner’s consent, you can adapt the exercises to suit you better. You can say no at any time, and you can change your mind whenever you want, as often as you want and need. The course is about making conscious choices, and if you consciously choose not to do a particular exercise, it is entirely in line with the course's intention, and you will still totally benefit from the course. Everything is confidential, which means that you are not allowed to share with others what any participant has said or done, and it is not allowed to record, take photos or take screenshots. It is important that no one disturbs you by walking into your room. For your sake, but also so that the other participants can feel safe that no one who is not a participant can see or hear them.

❁ Here's how it works
Instead of you and your partner or friend is in the same room as me and the other participants, you are at home and participating via Zoom (see below for more information). What is different than many other online courses is that everything is done live (live broadcast). This is not a course with pre-recorded videos where you get "homework to do next time". But everyone participates, listens, talks, and does the exercises in real-time.

For example, via Zoom, I can instruct an exercise including touch that takes 10 minutes to do. You do the exercise and then come back to Zoom to share how it was for you and listen to other people's experiences and insights. I can answer questions that may arise during the exercise and explain more about the Wheel of Consent theory before I guide you into the next exercise.

❁ This is what you need to be able to participate:
- a partner or friend to do the exercises with
- a place where you can be undisturbed
- a mattress, yoga mat, or bed to do the exercises on
- possibility to sit comfortably (pillows, meditation chairs, or armchairs)
- a computer/laptop with internet and a camera (webcam). One computer per couple is enough.
- Zoom program (free). More information below.
- notepad and pen (optional)
- something to eat and drink during the breaks

❁ How Zoom works
I have put together a guide for you who do not know how Zoom works and some tips on making Zoom work better for you and so that others can see and hear you well. But also so you will have the best experience possible, e.g., set up the room, make it comfortable and how we can interact with each other:
www.starspray.com/eng_zoom_guide.htm

❁ The facilitator
My name is Lorenzo Stiernquist, and I have worked with sessions, coaching, training, and courses for over 13 years. I am a Tantra teacher, Massage teacher, Sexsibility coach, founder of the Sexsibility coach training and the Sexsibility festival. The wheel of consent became a life-changing experience for me in 2013. Since then, I have been exploring it and teaching about it. I have attended Betty Martin's (the founder of the Wheel of Consent) course "Like a Pro" three times, attended Betty's Practitioner Training, attended and assisted in several online courses with Betty, and been part of the School of Consent. I use my knowledge both privately and in my work with clients, and I have held many sessions and workshops with the Wheel of Consent in various contexts. I am passionate about spreading this groundbreaking knowledge to as many people as possible by integrating it into all the sessions, courses, trainings, festivals, and events that I facilitate. You can read more about me at www.starspray.com/eng_about_lorenzo.htm

❁ Dates
March 12 - 14, 2021

❁ Times
Friday 12 March: 7 to 9.30 p.m. (19.00-21.30)
Saturday 13 March: 10 a.m. to 6.30 p.m. (10.00-18.30)
Sunday 14 March: 10 a.m. to 6.30 p.m. (10.00-18.30)

Lunch 12.30 to 2 p.m. (12.30-14.00)
One tip is to prepare food so that you also have time to rest,
take a walk or something else that you need during lunch.

❁ Link to Zoom
You will receive a link to my Zoom Room in your payment confirmation.

❁ Price
SEK 3,500 incl. VAT per couple (SEK 1,750 per person).
More info below if you want an invoice.

❁ Payment and cancellation rule
You buy your ticket directly via the Internet here at TicketTailor
by clicking on "Book and pay" in the upper right corner.

You can also receive an invoice. Book by clicking on "Book and pay",
fill in your details with social security number alt. organization number,
address and company name, and an invoice will be sent to you.
SEK 200 extra for invoice fee for private individuals (SEK 3,700 incl. VAT in total)
Companies are invoiced SEK 3,500 excl. VAT (SEK 4,375 incl. VAT)

Cancellation can only be made if you have a medical certificate and
then 75% of the fee you have paid will be refunded.

❁ A limited number of tickets
We will limit the number of participants to a maximum of 20 people (10 couples)

❁ More info:
Lorenzo Stiernquist
Mobile: +46722811178
Mail: lorenzo@starspray.com
Facebook: www.facebook.com/lorenzo.stiernquist 

❁ Betty Martin
The Wheel of Consent is created by Betty Martin from the USA, and she has approved me as a teacher. I follow the guidelines that Betty has developed for a weekend course. She also generously shares her experience and knowledge about the Wheel of Consent. Read more and watch free videos on her website:
https://bettymartin.org/

Welcome!

Lorenzo Stiernquist