State of Ropes: The Rope Jam - October Folsom Decompression!

State of Ropes: Rope Jam - Folsom Decompression Edition

Come decompress from Folsom with rope. You saw performances, scenes, and ties all weekend - this jam is the place to work on your own, be with community, and meet new people.

Organized by Davide, Gina, and Ben, this is the kind of evening we love most: familiar faces, ropes out, music on, and space to explore at whatever pace feels right. Work on something you've been sitting with, try something new with a trusted partner, or simply show up and be in the room.

⚡ Speed Tying with Gina - 7:15 to 8:00pm
Speed dating, but with rope. Short rounds, multiple partners, and a low-pressure way to meet new people and find out who you click with. If you're looking for people to tie with, be there at 7:15.

🔥 Fire massage with Monsieur Grimm - 9:00 to 10:00pm
Warm, intense, and a different kind of sensation to fold into the evening. If you've never tried it, this is a good night to find out.

🍵 Tea and snacks all evening.

What to expect

• This is a play-possible event
• A ropes workshop from 8:00 to 9:00 PM
• Snacks, refreshments and charcuterie board available during the evening
• 🍵 Tea service available throughout the evening - a social corner to decompress, recharge, and connect with old and new friends.
• Space to practice, explore, observe, or connect at your own pace
• A professional photographer on site

Professional photography will be provided by Justin Bench (@justinbenchphoto - https://www.instagram.com/justinbenchphoto/). Photos will be shared privately with participants shortly after the event. Wristbands will be available for anyone who prefers not to be photographed. No photos using personal phones without enthusiastic consent from everyone in the frame.

Schedule

• Doors open: 7:00 PM
• Speed Tying with Gina: 7:15–8:00 PM
• Doors close: 9:00 PM
• Fire massage with Monsieur Grimm: 9:00–10:00 PM
• Event ends: 10:00 PM (winding down), 10:30 PM ("hard" ending)

Please plan to arrive on time so we can keep the evening running smoothly.

Consent & etiquette (VERY IMPORTANT)

• A brief consent talk will happen early in the evening
• Ask before touching, tying, or engaging - consent is clear, enthusiastic, and ongoing
• Stay sober enough to give and receive consent
• Do not interrupt scenes in progress
• If you need support at any point, please reach out to an organizer or the house manager

Every Rope Jam includes a consent talk at the start of the evening. We cover the FRIES framework and what it looks like in practice in a space like this. FRIES stands for: Freely given, Reversible, Informed, Engaged, Specific.

• Freely given - Consent is only real when it comes without pressure, guilt, or repeated asking. That applies to strangers and partners alike. If someone needs time to think, that is not an invitation to persuade them.
• Reversible - Anyone can change their mind at any point - before, during, or after something has already started. A yes given earlier does not lock anyone in. Respect a change of mind without question or pushback.
• Informed - People can only consent to what they actually understand. Be honest about your experience level, your intentions, and anything relevant to someone's safety before engaging with them. Stay sober enough to both give and read consent clearly. If you are under the influence of substances, do not engage in rope or BDSM play, and inform potential play partners so they can make their own informed choice.
• Engaged - Look for genuine enthusiasm, not just the absence of a no. Pay attention to body language, eye contact, and energy. If there is any doubt about whether someone is fully present and willing, the answer is no. If you receive a no, thank the person and do not ask again.
• Specific - Yes to one thing is not yes to anything else. Ask before escalating. Ask before touching. In this space, consent is explicit and ongoing - not assumed.

Safety concerns or incident reports can be sent to safety@stateofropes.com

IF PLANS CHANGE: Tickets can be passed along to someone else, but we’re unable to offer refunds. If you end up missing the event, we’re happy to apply your ticket toward a future State of Ropes offering.

For more about the State of Ropes curriculum and future events, visit https://stateofropes.com.

You can also find the organizers on Instagram:

• @state.of.ropes
• @futureflowering
• @tieduntied

Photo Credits: Natalie Ann Schaeffer