State of Ropes: The Rope Jam - October Edition

A New Rope Jam at The Kink Store 

Come join us for the first jam back after the summer break. A great opportunity to shake off the rust, reconnect with the community, and get ropes back in your hands.

This jam is organized by Davide, Gina, and Ben, and is intended as a space to practice, learn, play, and spend time with community in a familiar, well-equipped venue. This is a play-possible rope jam: rope practice, scenes, experimentation, and broader kink play are welcome within the norms of consent, negotiation, and care.

The Kink Store is a purpose-built dungeon and play space, fully stocked with classic and creative dungeon furniture. The space includes an 80-foot suspension truss with suspension rigging points throughout, St. Andrew’s Crosses, padded spanking benches, mattresses, plush couches, and dedicated aftercare lounge areas. It’s a comfortable, well-designed space that supports both rope-focused work and broader kink exploration.

What to expect

• This is a play-possible event
• A ropes workshop from 8:00 to 9:00 PM
• Snacks, refreshments and charcuterie board available during the evening
• 🍵 Tea service available throughout the evening - a social corner to decompress, recharge, and connect with old and new friends.
• Space to practice, explore, observe, or connect at your own pace
• A professional photographer on site

Professional photography will be provided by Jeremie Frémaux. Photos will be shared privately with participants shortly after the event. Wristbands will be available for anyone who prefers not to be photographed. No photos using personal phones without enthusiastic consent from everyone in the frame.

Schedule

• Doors open: 7:00 PM
• Doors close: 9 PM
• Workshop with Donny: 8:00–9:00 PM
• Event ends: 10:00 PM (winding down), 10:30pm ("hard" ending)

Please plan to arrive on time so we can keep the evening running smoothly.

Consent & etiquette (VERY IMPORTANT)

• A brief consent talk will happen early in the evening
• Ask before touching, tying, or engaging - consent is clear, enthusiastic, and ongoing
• Stay sober enough to give and receive consent
• Do not interrupt scenes in progress
• If you need support at any point, please reach out to an organizer or the house manager

Every Rope Jam includes a consent talk at the start of the evening. We cover the FRIES framework and what it looks like in practice in a space like this. FRIES stands for: Freely given, Reversible, Informed, Engaged, Specific.

• Freely given - Consent is only real when it comes without pressure, guilt, or repeated asking. That applies to strangers and partners alike. If someone needs time to think, that is not an invitation to persuade them.
• Reversible - Anyone can change their mind at any point - before, during, or after something has already started. A yes given earlier does not lock anyone in. Respect a change of mind without question or pushback.
• Informed - People can only consent to what they actually understand. Be honest about your experience level, your intentions, and anything relevant to someone's safety before engaging with them. Stay sober enough to both give and read consent clearly. If you are under the influence of substances, do not engage in rope or BDSM play, and inform potential play partners so they can make their own informed choice.
• Engaged - Look for genuine enthusiasm, not just the absence of a no. Pay attention to body language, eye contact, and energy. If there is any doubt about whether someone is fully present and willing, the answer is no. If you receive a no, thank the person and do not ask again.
• Specific - Yes to one thing is not yes to anything else. Ask before escalating. Ask before touching. In this space, consent is explicit and ongoing - not assumed.

Safety concerns or incident reports can be sent to safety@stateofropes.com

IF PLANS CHANGE: Tickets can be passed along to someone else, but we’re unable to offer refunds. If you end up missing the event, we’re happy to apply your ticket toward a future State of Ropes offering.

For more about the State of Ropes curriculum and future events, visit https://stateofropes.com.

You can also find the organizers on Instagram:

• @state.of.ropes
• @futureflowering
• @tieduntied

Photo Credits: Natalie Ann Schaeffer