We will look at the effect that unspoken expectations have on relationships. You enter into a relationship with expectations based on your observations of your parents and other couples. You may not be conscious that you have them until they are triggered. You may also bring past relationships into the current one. Such as, "I'll never let that happen again", or "No one will ever do that to me again." Another source of expectations is experience with your partner. When you get the same response a few times you begin to avoid certain behaviours or prepare yourself to deal with a now predictable reaction. Immense pressure is released when a couple accepts each other as they are rather than how they ‘should’ be. Letting go of expectations and accepting each other promotes healthy communication and shortens the list of offences against each other.