Dating doesn’t have to be exhausting, confusing, or emotionally draining.

Empower Your Dating Journey

If you’re tired of wasting time on unfulfilling dates, or struggling with the emotional toll of rejection, this group coaching program will give you the clarity and skills you need to approach dating with a new mindset. In this supportive, small group environment, you’ll participate in experiential exercises and guided discussions on critical topics that will completely transform your approach to dating.

Join Dr. Alison Ash, intimacy coach and educator and the founder of TurnON.love, for this empowering 6-week coaching program designed to empower you with the tools, confidence, and strategies needed to make dating fun, fulfilling, and successful. Spaces are limited to ensure a personal, transformative experience, so don’t miss out on the chance to invest in yourself and create a lasting, nourishing relationship. This program is open to folks of all genders and sexual orientations and is applicable to both monogamous and non-monogamous dynamics.

This 6 week group coaching program will cover the following topics:

Week 1: How to Find People to Date

Many people struggle with where to meet like-minded partners and expand their dating pool strategically and authentically. This session explores different dating avenues, from apps to date me docs to in-person opportunities.

Week 2: Confidence, Body Image & Overcoming Insecurities

Many people struggle with self-doubt, comparison cycles, and insecurities. This session focuses on building self-confidence, overcoming negative body image, reclaiming your sense of desirability and worth so you can feel more empowered while dating.

Week 3: Flirting, Sexual Energy & Building Desire

Flirting and building sexual energy isn’t just about physical attraction—it’s about playfulness, confidence, and emotional connection. This session will help you develop a natural, authentic flirting style, understand the role of sexual energy, and create desire through chemistry.

Week 4: Turning Down Dates & Handling Rejection

Rejection is an unavoidable part of dating, whether you’re the one turning someone down or facing rejection yourself. This session will cover how to gracefully reject someone, handle rejection with resilience, and navigate tough situations like ghosting and breakups.

Week 5: Avoiding Dating Burnout & Red Flags

Burnout and unhealthy dynamics can quickly derail dating, leaving ups frustrated and exhausted. This session will help you recognize the signs of burnout and toxic patterns in dating, while offering strategies to maintain a healthy, positive mindset.

Week 6: From Casual to Committed: Understanding Relationship Transitions

Transitioning from casual dating to a committed relationship requires understanding needs, desires, and boundaries while navigating emotional and practical shifts. This session focuses on when to take things to the next level and how to communicate openly to ensure a healthy transition.

Reviews

“After several months of coaching, I've made faster progress than I have in the last 20 years of conventional therapy. For the first time in my life, I have hope for my future instead of fear. I cannot recommend Dr. Aly highly enough.” K.A.

"Dr. Aly's coaching is really pragmatic and applicable to day-to-day life. Dr. Aly helped me realize that I am ‘not a problem to be fixed’, as she said, but a resilient and empowered person who fully owns her wants and needs and who courageously invites others to co-create fun, stimulating and rewarding relationships! Working with her was one of the best decisions I have ever made!" -Y.C.

"Dr. Aly has helped me uncover and address underlying issues that were hindering my ability to fully connect with people. She has supported me to explore my needs and boundaries and provided me with invaluable tools and techniques that have helped me enhance my communication skills, build trust, and foster intimacy. Working with Dr. Aly has truly been a life-changing experience!" - K.L.

“Dr. Aly’s coaching was just what I needed, she was super nonjudgmental and comfortable talking about things that I’m not yet comfortable about myself. She was kind and compassionate to a degree that I’m not used to with therapists. She also didn’t beat around the bush; she got up to speed quickly with my situation, figured out the issues and constraints, and then offered me a dozen different pieces of down-to-earth good advice." - B.D.

Instructor Bio

Dr. Alison Ash, aka Dr. Aly, is a trauma-informed intimacy coach and educator, Stanford University Lecturer, author, and founder of TurnON.love. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, she has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering intimate experiences. She has helped pioneer research into the orgasm gap and has written on topics ranging from pleasure in heterosexual dynamics to queer and trans identities and experiences. She also draws on her extensive training in Hakomi Mindful Somatic Psychotherapy, Innate Somatic Intelligence Trauma Therapy Approach, and the Somatica Method of sex and intimacy coaching to support her clients to radically explore and courageously express themselves. Dr. Aly designs workshops, courses, and retreats and offers individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to be able to cultivate and sustain nourishing emotional and sexual intimacy. 

She invites you to TurnON pleasure, intimacy and love at www.TurnON.love and on Instagram and Facebook.

Additional details

* Group size will be between 8-12 people. 

* This is a closed group. No members will be added after the start date.

* Each week builds on the previous one, as the group becomes deeper and more cohesive over time. You are expected to pay for all meetings even if you need to miss any of them. If you know you will need to miss more than 2 out of the 6 meetings, it may be best to wait to join the next round of the group.

* I welcome folks of all genders, sexual orientations, relationship structures, ages, body types, races and ethnicities. 

* Please note tickets are not refundable. 

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Upcoming Workshops and Courses

Repairing Ruptures in Relationships

June 18th in Oakland

Also available as an on-demand rental

Miscommunications are common, boundaries get crossed, and hurt feelings happen - but they don’t have to end in disconnection. Want to know how to resolve conflict and feel closer after? Learn the dos and don'ts of repair conversations and the common mistakes that can intensify conflict rather than healing it. Receive a clear formula that will teach you when and how to effectively have repair conversations. Successful repairs allow for you to feel closer than ever before as you gain confidence in your ability to withstand inevitable relational challenges.

The Ins and Outs of Play Parties

June 28th in Oakland

Also available as an on-demand rental

Play parties are a provocative way to explore your sexuality and relationships, experiment with your desires and fantasies, and discover new aspects of yourself. However, without the proper preparation, play parties can also feel intimidating and intense. Address common anxieties, tackle potential challenges, learn play party etiquette, gain tips for meeting new people, and receive valuable insights on attending play parties solo or alongside a partner. You'll feel confident navigating play parties and maximize your ability to experience pleasure and fun

The Secrets of Passion, Romance, and Dominance

July 9th in Oakland

Discover how to use both words and touch to create passionate, romantic, and dominant sexual encounters! Master romantic affirmations, passionate dirty talk, and dominant commands. Explore how to seduce with a wide array of tantalizing and exhilarating touch techniques. Learn how to make your lover surrender by spanking, hair pulling, and pinning them against the wall. You'll leave feeling more confident how fulfilling it can be to have more variety in your sex life and make their fantasies come true!

Neurodivergent Love: Enhancing Emotional Intimacy

July 22nd in Oakland

We give autistic and ADHD folks helpful tools to support with executive dysfunction, catastrophizing, shame spirals, and rejection sensitivity. Unpack harmful dynamics like parent/child or manager/employee roles that can lead to fawning and resentment and how to shift into more mutual connection. Learn strategies for reducing the emotional and logistical toll of neurodiverse and neurotypical differences while fostering teamwork, trust, and intimacy, whether you're partnered or preparing for future relationships.

Neurodivergent Sexuality: Enhancing Pleasure

July 29th in Oakland

Dating and sex can be overwhelming for autistic and ADHD folks due to sensory sensitivities, attention challenges, and societal expectations. Learn how to talk about sensory preferences, regulate arousal and attention, and address common neurodivergent-neurotypical relationship dynamics including initiator-rejector patterns, and hyper vs hypo sexuality. Neurotypical partners will discover how better support their neurodivergent loved ones and co-create alignment around differing needs and desires.

How to Eat Pussy like a Champ

August 3rd in Oakland

Also available as an on-demand rental

Givers will learn how to discover what turns their lover(s) on and explore a wide range of techniques for maximizing pleasure. Receivers will learn how to surrender into sensation while also taking a more active role in cultivating their own pleasure. Discover all the nerve pathways involved so you can understand the different kinds of orgasms possible as well as science-based techniques for how to explore them. Plus, there's a thorough live demo so you can see all the skills put into action. Both individuals and couples are welcome!

How to Pick Your Persons(s)

August 6th in Oakland

Also available as an on-demand rental

Whether you’re looking for a hot date, a new lover, or a committed partner, how do you know if someone’s a good fit? Are you afraid you’re settling, or perhaps you’re worried you’re being too picky? Discover your non-negotiables, learn to own your needs, and create a clear and empowering filter that allows you to find the right person(s) for you. Gently and compassionately end connections that aren’t nourishing and learn how to courageously and vulnerably invite deeper intimacy with the right person(s) for you!

Couples Retreat - Sustainable Intimacy: Fuel Passion for Lasting Love

October 10th-13th in Sonoma

Also available as an on-demand rental

Navigating mismatched libidos, feeling stuck in routines, or just craving more playfulness and pleasure are natural parts of growing together over time. In long-term relationships, it’s common to feel desire ebb and flow, to relate to sex like it’s a chore, or to quietly build up feelings of rejection or resentment. Even loving, connected couples can struggle with differences in desires, changing needs, or the pressures of daily life crowding out time for intimacy. Whether you're looking to rekindle passion or simply carve out meaningful time to nourish your relationship, this 3-night, 4-day retreat offers a spacious and supportive container to expand your erotic potential and strengthen the emotional and physical bonds between you.

You'll:

1. Break Free from Stagnant Patterns: Learn how to move beyond the anxious-avoidant dynamic, cohabitator-coparent roles, and the pressure-rejection cycle that can stifle intimacy.
2. Uncover & Overcome Libido Blockers: Identify what’s getting in the way of your desire, pleasure, and connection—and learn how to dissolve those barriers.
3. Master the Art of Intimacy Bids: Explore how to make verbal, physical, and romantic invitations that genuinely woo your partner and spark connection.
4. Create Fun & Exciting Intimacy Dates: Receive a curated menu of ways to connect authentically—without pressure or performance.
5. Rediscover Your Turn-On & Pleasure: Engage in practices that will expand your capacity to both give and receive pleasure in ways that feel deeply fulfilling.
6. Sustainable Intimacy Toolkit: Take home a 35-page Sustainable Intimacy booklet filled with reflection exercises and personalized practices to continue nurturing your intimacy.
7. Indulge in Rejuvenating Experiences: Enjoy delicious meals, a heated pool and hot tub, scenic trails, movement and mindfulness classes, a bonus workshop on passionate, romantic, and dominant touch, a sensual soirée, and more
8. Choose from a Variety of Accommodation Options: Choose from camping and glamping for an immersive nature experience to gorgeous private rooms, including one with a private sauna and soaking tub overlooking the woods.

Check out the detailed schedule, photos of the property and lodging options, and more!

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Complete List of Workshops and Courses Available as On-Demand Rentals

Cultivating Your Pleasure

Feel Your Way To Yes

Free Your Fantasies

Get Out of Your Head In Bed

How to Be a Feminist in the Bedroom

How to Eat Pussy Like a Champ

How to Pick Your Person(s)

Navigating Non-Monogamy Level 1

Mastering Non-Monogamy Level 2

Refining Your Sexual Intuition

Repairing Ruptures in Relationships

Sexual and Emotional Intimacy Skills (8 week course for individuals and couples)

Sleaze-Free Seduction Skills

Sustainable Intimacy: Reignite the Flame for the Long Game (4 week course for couples)

The Ins and Outs of Play Parties

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